general

yes

I don't really see that as calling her out

It's just a theory I had

well dont have a theory about my mother

Nor does it dis-represent or demean her current nature

I never once demeaned her current, as you put it, hard working nature.

Only talked about the possible past.

Which, can never be undone.

the reason that shes hard working is why im defending her

is does not matter her past actions

So it's immoral to talk about the past, possibly negative, actions of someone if they're now clean and hard working?

yes

Even if that negetive thing is as minor as perhaps theyve smoked some weed once?

That's illogical.

This isn't the circumstance where people would be strictly logical

Because it's family gent?

Maybe we'll setup a live debate later!

because its someone who had a bad past and dont want people to be referred to in the present

the past stays in the past

The past can't be changed or forgotten, it's not like I'm talking about anything serious either.

Forgetting and completely forgoing the past and ignoring it because it might "hurt them" is stupid.

All I did was mention a possibility, which has no relation to the "bad past" you mention.

Have you ever watched some of the bioncles movies?

you said, your mom probably did drugs too, no remorse, if my mom read that i can guaranteed she would be abit sad

One of them has a good section about this kinda stuff.

Oh well? If it's her past, its her past.

Acceptance is very important.

most people cant max

Just hiding it and putting it away is moronic.

my mother genuinely hates her past

and i mean hate

and?

it was so bad she cant accept it fully

So I can't list something she MIGHT of done, without you knowing, because it DEMEANS HER, and to her would of brought up her past (possibly) and you want to protect her from that because she's hard working.

there is scars

Am I correct?

its more then hard working but i wish for someone not to give her past, or make rumors

It's not the creation of a rumor if it was just a possible idea.

well please dont

shes happier

It doesn't effect her.

She doesn't read these chats.

Do you show them to her?

how would you know what affects her max?

Does she read all your chats?

and no, but i hate someone talking bad

Do you believe in universal emotions and such retardism?

"What's put out in the universe happens..."

or whatever mumbo jumbo

If not- then it doesn't effect her.

Unless it somehow puts you in such a bad mood you take it out on her.

why on earth would i put my mothers problems on her?

I'm stating possible ways what I say here could effect her.

So unless she reads this place, you believe in universal emotions, or you take anger from this out on her.

It does not.

it effects me then, im mad that a stranger is talking about possibilities about her past actions because of what my father did

and?

That's this server.

People make eachother mad and make fun of them all the time.

Oh well?

and im saying, dont

for me, its a line

I'll think about it.

I still don't see how something not about you, can effect youl

if your mother did bad actions, she worked her life for you, provided for you, even changed her habits for you, would you be mad if someone said something nasty about her, or even a possibility?

No.

It's the internet.

It's this server.

IRL? Sure maybe.

I'd have to think about it

and yet you wonder why i dont participate?

Actually xbrox

to be fair

My mother used to do lots of drugs, and after I was born she stopped doing that and partaking in alcohol and etc.

She worked alone for me and my sister

part time jobs, many of them

cared for two children with very little help

yet

if anyone here called her a druggy

I LITERALLY wouldnt care