Nvm this is the one
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/i-was-called-a-faggot-my-first-day-in-the-army_b_59a575d2e4b0b234aecad22b
I Was Called A 'Faggot' My First Day In the Army
"Why couldn’t it have been somebody else?" I thought to myself. "Why can’t I ever just blend in?"
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